Counselling, Psychotherapy and Social Work.

Individual Therapy

Individual Therapy – Therapy for you! 

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 Support when and where needed!

zen gardenEveryone goes through difficult situations in life and there is nothing wrong with seeking additional support, when needed.

Individual Therapy can offer new solutions to old problems that you may be struggling with and will help you to resolve issues before they become major obstacles in your life.

Individual therapy will help provide insight, clarity and give you tools to deal with unresolved challenges and issues, necessary to achieve a renewed sense of harmony and well-being. You are not alone and should never feeling guilty about your struggle to resolve a problem yourself; therapy is an investment in yourself, which can serve not only to help you problem solve difficulties faced but also to energize your life, actualize your potential, and better realise your hopes and dreams.

 

Many of the Issues Individual Therapy Addresses are:


beach-footer2 (350 x 232)Depression & Anxiety
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Depression & anxiety is more common than people think and can permeate all aspects of a person’s life. It can make you feel overwhelmed, angry, and alone, disconnected, unhappy, unmotivated, helpless, and sometimes even hopeless.
It can also make it harder to do the very things that help to alleviate depression. Anxiety can manifest itself in various ways, including excessive or debilitating worry, social anxiety, panic attacks and even physical symptoms (tightness, sore muscles, stomach distress).
By developing tools, in therapy, to cope with the symptoms of depression and gaining insight into the underlying causes, you can begin to lift the veil of depression and participate in and more fully enjoy life again.

 

images (7)Anger Management: 

Uncontrolled anger can affect your relationships, your job and your health. Rage can take over your life and result in depression, violence, and suicidal feelings. Your kids, neighbours and coworkers can also be at risk from uncontrolled outbursts and erratic behavior.
If you are suffering from anger issues, it is vital that you get the support and therapy you need to develop effective management strategies.

 

 


sad-teen-girlSelf-Esteem
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Low self-esteem is a negative evaluation of oneself. Having a low self-esteem can have devastating consequences, such as anxiety, stress, loneliness, and increased likelihood of depression.
It can also cause problems with friendships and romantic relationships, impair academic and job performance, and/or lead to increased vulnerability to drug and alcohol abuse.

 

 

 

 

 

bridge-of-kawaruGrief:

Unfortunately, grieving is not always a clean-cut predictable experience with distinct solutions.  Instead, it is often experienced as a shape-shifty beast that takes many forms, transforming you from the inside out in inexplicable ways.   It can look like rage or boredom; it can make you manically join a dozen groups looking for comfort, or it can shut you down completely and close out all human connection.
It can make you hyper productive to avoid the pain, put you in a sleep-filled coma where every waking moment is agony, or blow all the feeling right out of you like a gust of numbness so you feel nothing at all.  However you live it, it is a very real, horrific psychological experience.
Deep grief is a profoundly lonely experience, but you don’t have to go through it alone.

 

Trauma/Violence:

A traumatic event can shatter your sense of well-being and security.  When someone goes through a traumatic experience, they may feel numb, scared, shocked, confused, anxious, depressed, powerless, and unable to function.
Often times, people find themselves reliving the trauma over and over again.  These normal reactions to trauma can isolate people from themselves, their relationships, and the important aspects of their personal and professional lives. Here EMDR Therapy is very successful.

 

 

 

Gender Issues:

You may be questioning your sexual identity, experiencing internalised or externalised homophobia, struggling with the norms in your community of choice, or deciding whether to come out to your family or friends. Our goal is to provide a safe and affirming therapeutic environment in which to explore and address these important questions.

 

 

 


self harm -qvtpSelf-Harm
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Self-harm includes anything you do to intentionally injure yourself.  Self-harm can be your way of coping with problems. It may help you express feelings that you can’t put into words, distract you from your life, or release emotional pain. Afterward, you probably feel better—at least for a little while. But then the painful feelings return, and you feel the urge to hurt yourself again.  If you want to stop but don’t know how, remember this: you deserve to feel better, and you can get there without hurting yourself.  It can be scary to talk about the very thing you have worked so hard to hide, but it can also be a huge relief to finally let go of your secret and share what you’re going through.

 

Sexual Abuse/Assault:

Sexual abuse/assault is a personal and destructive crime and refers to any action that pressures or coerces someone to do something sexually they don’t want to do.   Its effects on you and your loved ones can be psychological, emotional, and/or physical.  The assault can be brief in duration or last a very long time, but it is important to remember that there is not one “normal” reaction to sexual abuse/assault.
Many people experience feelings of fear, guilt, anger, shame, worthlessness, embarrassment, and/or shock. Having someone there to support you as you deal with the aftermath of such an event can make a huge difference.
Being sexually abused/assaulted is a life-changing experience – the most severe form of physical assault short of homicide – and it is perfectly acceptable for you to work at your own pace.
I provide a safe and supportive environment for clients to process their experience when they are ready.

 

CodependencyCodependency:

Codependency means putting aside your own needs in order to try and meet the needs of another person.  Codependency often develops from dysfunctional patterns of living and problem-solving during childhood; which can restrict the free and healthy development of people’s self-esteem and coping.
As adults, codependent people have a greater tendency to get involved in “toxic relationships”, in other words, with people who are perhaps unreliable, emotionally unavailable, or needy.
The codependent person tries to provide and control everything within the relationship (this could be with a friend, family member, or significant other) without addressing their own needs or desires.


AddictionAddiction: 

Whether the addiction is related to drugs, alcohol, sex, food, shopping, or gambling, it can affect every aspect of your life.  Your mental/emotional well-being, physical health, family, relationships, and career all suffer with you.  Addictions often result from a person’s maladaptive attempts to cope with a combination of mental, emotional, physical, and relational stressors.  Over time, a person develops habitual patterns that are difficult to break, due to actual changes in the brain, leading to a vicious and destructive cycle.  Addiction can leave people feeling anxious, depressed, helpless, and sometimes even hopeless.

 

 

depresive-symptoms-may-includeLife Changing Events

This refers to a time in your life in which change has occurred, leaving you feeling anxious, stressed, sad, depressed, or just simply “out of it”.   This could result from a variety of things, such as finding out you have a loved one who is sick, going through a bad break-up, having your first child, getting laid off from work, your daughter or son leaving home, getting married, getting divorced, or getting into a car accident.  The transition you are going through may or may not feel significant, but either way, it is having an impact on you and your day-to-day functioning.
I provide a compassionate, nonjudgmental environment that allows you to discuss and explore this challenging time in your life.

 

 

“There are many ways of getting strong, sometimes talking is the best way.”

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Stephen de Quincey – Counsellor

Steve de Quincey - Counsellor qvtp.co.nz

B.Social Work (Hons), PGDip Counselling,
Masters Counselling, MNZAC, EMDRAA.

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